Let’s begin with knowing that the commitment to success and fulfillment is not how much noise you make! Many people talk the talk but few walk the walk on the journey to success and true fulfillment. My parents use to say, “Talk is cheap! Actions speak louder than words.”

This means that many people do not understand that your commitment to measure success is measured by providing the tools and resources for effective life changes.

Your true fulfillment to true success is measured by your cores values and the skills associated with emotional intelligence! In order to do this, you must wear your emotional intelligence hat.

Remember, women wear many hats and each hat represents the role that matches what you are thinking, saying and doing. Our Women Wear Many Hats series will help you have a keen awareness of how your behavior and decisions are driven by your emotions.  

Read Your Own Emotions

What is emotional intelligence? Emotional intelligence is your ability to recognize and understand your feeling as well as the feeling of others. It is the ability to manage your emotions and relationships. It is to act on your core values, and have accountability.

The most essential part of emotional intelligence is the ability to read your own emotions! This allows you to know your strengths as well as your limitations. It allows you to feel confident about your self-worth. It allows you to feel good about yourself.

Yes, it all begins with you! It begins with how you monitor and channel your moods and emotions! We call this self-awareness.

On your journey to self-awareness, you need a road map called self-description.  For example, you need to ask yourself these questions: 

               ·       Who am I? What am I like?

               ·       Where am I now?

               ·       Where do I want to go?

               ·       How will I get there?

               ·       What are my values?  

               ·       How do others perceive me?

               ·       In what areas do I need to better my skills?

Of course, managing one’s life is not easy! Managing your life is the most difficult challenge. It begins with managing your inner life, your thoughts, and your actions.

Tell the Truth and Shame the Devil

Next, tell the truth! Tell the truth about any habit. The truth will free you. When you admit what is going on in your life, it will tear down all the defenses. After this, you are open to receive help from others to help you change and look at the whole picture of who you are. Many people like to brag about their strengths, but refuse to look at their weakness.

Emotional intelligence will help you to have confidence – look at your strengths as well as your weakness. It will help you have a new mind set to help you learn and make wise choices.

To enhance your emotional intelligence, look at the whole picture of who you are. Consider doing the following:

               1.   Be specific – In what areas do you need to change or grow?  Is it spiritually, mentally or emotionally? Do you need to develop new skills? Make a list.  How can you improve?  

                2.   Be courageous - The power is like looking in the mirror that reveals a part of you that you didn’t admit or know is there. Now, decide what to do about it.

               3.   Time yourself – Take small steps to change, write a personal journal – cross out all the things that don’t make sense. Think positive thoughts. I will succeed when I … I am good at … I like this about myself… I will not just talk the talk, but I will walk the talk.  I know that the word “walk” is an action word, so I will take action to change and grow. I will stay true to my core values according to Biblical principles.

Know Your Core Values

What are core values? Core values remain immovable. The word core means the heart of the matter. It is the central part of anything. It is the most important part. It is the essential and the necessary thing required. It is the foundation of a principle.

Core values are the inner values we believe in ahead of financial or strategic success. It is the framework by which we make decisions, hire, evaluate, promote people and create culture. Your values are your ideals, your standards, morals, your principles and your customs that guide you.

Values represents you highest priorities and are the deep roots and foundations that the driving forces that hold your beliefs together in your most inner being. Your values determine how you live your life. How you live your life defines your character.

It is important that you live your values and commit to them in your daily life. Circumstances might change but our core values never change. They are founded on Biblical principles.

Prioritize your values. These are the five values you need to weave though in everything you do.

                 1.   Accountability with integrity

                 2.   Passion having a fervent desire of being transformed into the true image of God.

                 3.   Service you will provide that will help and motivate others.

                 4.   Professionalism and be organized and conduct activity with excellence and do your best.

              5.   Connectedness, you will build bridges and relationships with different women from different backgrounds to impact others in their daily lives with the love of Christ.

Conclusion

Finally, know that you can always find reasons to own your feelings and improve yourself and your life. Wearing your emotional intelligence hat is the key to true fulfillment to life and true success. Know that self- awareness will empower you to find new depths inside of you. It will help you know how to break old behavioral habits and established new ones.   

Read, Romans 12:2, “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

Recognize that your emotional intelligence hat teaches you to build a stronger you, as you put on your self-awareness hat and wear the different hats at the right time. This is the guide to the true path of fulfillment and success – it is the guide to a clear sense of purpose for your life and it will help you discover the result to the most important powerful achievement in life.

Always wear your emotional intelligence hat. This hat will help you remember that having a clear purpose in life is essential and it will guide you on your journey in life!